Have you listened to yourself lately? Would you allow your children to talk to each other like that? Would you linger with a friend who addressed you in such a manner?
Those pesky little voices; that naggy inner critic. Okay. Time to start the new year out right with a serious “sit down and talkin to”.
In recent work with clients (and myself) enacting these various “voices” in our heads has been tremendously helpful. Here’s what we do:
First we identify two separate “little voices”, each with their own message.
Next, we conduct a virtual mediation session. The intention here is to not to shame them, but instead to get to the bottom of what they each need.
Compassionate Communication techniques (Marshall Rosenberg’s Non Violent Communication Strategies) teach the principle that every conflict is based in an unmet need. Spending time exploring what each needs helps them “hear each other” and move from there to craft mutually beneficial solutions . Ideally, they can reach agreement. It is simple and surprisingly effective!
Here’s a fleshed out example:
Taurus Sun: I need a comfy recliner, my soft jammies, delicious chocolate to suck on and peace and quiet.
Scorpio Moon: That sounds boring! I need intensity!!!
They continue to talk, listen/hear each other and eventually they craft an agreement. They decide to watch an intense, adventure movie in the comfy chair w/deliciously intense chocolate. How cool is that??!!!!
Astrologers: Try this with the squares and oppositions in the charts you work with and let me know what you think.
Have fun with it. Laughing ”with” these various parts of us helps them feel much safer to come out and play…and they seem to be less afraid and more willing to move in a more mature, healthy and productive direction.
May you find more peace and compassion in 2011, both in your interior and exterior conversations!
Much love,
Glenna
space around those deepest hurts and longings? Well, in many aspects, an astrology reading with me is a great excuse for these deep conversations to unfold. It is my honor to assist you in accessing your deepest knowings in a context designed to facilitate healing. Heaven knows, I’ve needed and continue to need them. We’re all human. May we all have those wise, caring, soft places to land.
